Baby Swing DIY

I'm the type of mom who likes to stay inside all the time and given that I have to climb quite a number of stairs up and down just for the sake of an outing with my son doesnt help at all. So one day out of desperation to let him enjoy the outside fun at home abit, I decided to make him a swing. He has never sat on a baby swing to this day (he's 13 months old now) so it has always been quite saddening for me to feel that he's missing out on the fun that other babies his age might be having. So many reasons to go for it and so I did.

We had his leftover walker at home and all I did was unscrew the seating area off the bottom and use that same screwdriver to make holes on the sides where necessary. Making holes were easy because all I did was heat up the screwdriver's tip while holding the insulated area and then press the tip onto the places where I want holes to be drilled out. The plastic just melted into a perfect hole, just enough for me to put through ropes in.

I put the ropes in and out from one hole to the next and adjusted the height of the rope so that the seat would be held up high at a specific height and tied the last end of the rope underneath the seat. Afterwards I used hot glue to fill up the holes so that the ropes would have difficulty in budging from their position. i also put hot glue on the knot I made to make the knot stronger. If you want you may cut the rope and just put them through the holes and leave a knot at the underside of the seat but I felt that leaving the rope as it was might just help distribute the weight evenly and also provide flexibility if I wanted to alter the swing later on.

Once the glue had dried up I tied it on top of my bed room door after opening it (there's a small window on top of the bedroom door so I tied the end of the rope on it and put my baby into it) My son was with me the whole time and it took only about 40 mins to make from 0. He loved it and it made me feel accomplished as a mom because now I wouldn't have to live with the regret that he hasn't been able to use a baby swing in his baby years. 😂

Oh, and don't forget to put a folded blanket on the seating area so that your baby won't hurt this thighs from the fabric of the seat pressing against the skin. Hope this helps someone like me out there. Do share with me your reviews in the comments section below.

Support your Breastfeeding Wife

I don't know whether I can touch on this topic as I should due to my lack of experience, but I want to give it a try, since this has been giving me nightmares lately. Awkward enough, I couldn't blame anyone except Mr. husbands out there for the posts I've been seeing online. She gave birth to your beloved daughter/son and you are as much needed to cater for your child's needs as much as her.

Why must she be forced to stay awake while she's feeling like a zombie?
Why does she need to take drugs or use caffeine to stay awake? Have you ever realized how her mental well-being affects your child??
Why is she ridiculed for the mess your child has made around the house?
Why doesn't she get 'any' time to take a shower peacefully?
Why Mr. Husband? WHY??

You men need to get educated. Make it your job to learn something. Seriously, even if you just google about it for 15-30 minutes you will be WAY more educated than the average dad who prefers to stay ignorant.

As the due date is nearing, accumulate all the information required about lactation and the well-being of mother & child. Next, offer to help her when she gives birth. Even though she might not allow you out of respect, this means the world to a woman. I feel for those new mothers out there.

She is feeding your baby every 2 hours during the first few weeks after birth. Show her some respect by handling a few diapers whenever you are around. Hand over anything that she is unable to get her hands on while breastfeeding. Ask her whether she'd like anything. Slice some fresh fruits and feed her by yourself while she's knocked out tired, yet breastfeeding.

You are her husband but you need to be her father & mother at the same time, now that she needs you the MOST. Offer the support and warmth she is craving. Most mothers go through baby blues after birth and you'll have to be extra patient & loving during this time. Take care of your baby after work and let her shower peacefully. Tell her to take a nap while you take your baby out for a ride.

Wake up in the middle of the night with her. Don’t let her be the only one to wake up EVERY TIME. Yes, you've got work in the morning unlike her. But you need to excuse your wife and be lenient with her. Allah, the lord of both worlds made the obligatory 'Fasting of Ramadan' easier on her merely because she's breastfeeding. You could at least wake up for the first part of the night, say 1/3rd or 2/3rd (depending on how much you love her - Ha! just kidding) and then change duties for the rest of the night.

It's rare to get sometime by yourselves after she gives birth, so keep in mind to have her emotionally satisfied. Shower her with words of motivation and appreciation. (No, 'you work hard' is too shallow. Try saying, 'my beautiful wife is managing motherhood so well', for a change.) She'll blossom like a flower and trust me, it'll ignite an energy & determination within her that you'd never seen before.

There are other ways to make her feel loved during this difficult time. As a loving husband & a responsible father, you should volunteer to tidy up around the house. She's anxious that you might find out that the laundry box is still full to the brim and there's a plate in the sink she couldn't find time to wash before you came home from work. She wants everything organized & thus feels like a failure right now. This would eventually affect her mental stability and eventually, your baby. Try helping her out and take her anxiety to the trash. Inspire her & let her know that you understand her. Don’t know where the dishes go, how to do the laundry, how to vacuum? Figure it out, you’re not stupid. Man up!

In his house, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) would be at the service of his family: he would milk his sheep, patch his garment, serve himself and mend his shoes. When the time for prayer came, he would go out and lead the people in prayer, then he would sit with them, talk with them, teach them, exhort them, remind them, listen to their complaints, and reconcile between them. Then he would go back to his house.

‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) was asked: What did the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) do in his house? She said: He was a human being like any other; he would clean his garment, milk his sheep and serve himself. (*)

According to another report: He used to stitch his garment, mend his shoes and work as other men work in their houses. (**)

al-Aswad said: I asked ‘Aa’ishah what the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) used to do in his house. She said: He would serve his family, then when the time for prayer came, he would go out to the prayer.(***)

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(*) Narrated by Ahmad, 26194; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in as-Saheehah, 671

(**) Narrated by Ahmad (24903); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami‘, 4937.

(***) Narrated by al-Bukhaari (676)

{I've emphasized on 'your child' because some husbands seem to have forgotten that the child belongs to 'both' of them}

{I've previously posted this as a status on my Facebook account. There's no plagiarism involved and neither am I impersonating her because, I am her!}

{Here's a spoiler for motivation: Google helped me gather my information for the most part. You men can do it as well!}