He's always Busy!

They say that if a person loves you, they'll make time for you no matter what. Agreed?

No.. I did agree before & loved that quote until the coin flipped onto my direction and made ME the busy one.

I've realized that the quote actually worked best the other way around -- 'If a person really loves you, they'll understand you when you tell them that you are busy, no matter what.' (*)

I know it's possible to see your ‘extremely busy’ beloved, just resting at home or having a walk along the beach. I would've raised the question myself, “Excuse me, but didn't you tell me that you was busy?”

Answering myself made it seem easier to believe and digest. Maybe he had a rough, tiring day and wishes to wind off. Or maybe, he encountered something horrific at work & wishes to stop thinking about it, one way or the other.

I know it hurts to know that he decided not to give 'you' time when he finally had it after being so busy, even while he knew that you've been yearning to go shopping (perhaps). But trust me, he might be struggling with his stress load & simply might be craving for some space. Some space, to actually ‘feel’ like he is free from all obligations, duties & work.

My friends helped me a great deal when I went through the same phase, & the account I made regarding one of them is as follows:

"I never expected her to ever talk to me the same when I told her that I was busy, while I knew that she wanted my company now more than before. She did tell me that she understood me, but part of me felt like, ‘no, she wont understand'.

But the way she kept on hitting on me whenever she had the urge to discuss something important, proved to me that she never took my absence as an offence. I would reply after hours or even days apart, but she would reply with the same tone and affection.

Thus I felt good in my skin and my ‘busy-ness’, and I began leaving her msgs when I got overloaded on stress. I felt comforted when she'd reply with soothing words, and I knew that I was blessed to have her."

The real deal about this whole blabber was that whoever is claiming to be busy, must really be busy although you do see him sleeping or whatever, at times. Every single relationship is based on trust and where there's no trust, there's no need of any (baseless) love.

And as the saying goes, something like this: ‘if you cant handle me at my worst, then you dont deserve me at my best’

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(*) Applicable only to islamically legislated, halal Relationships. Such Relationships are the only ones worth fighting for.